Welcome, friend!

Hey friends! Welcome to February - the month of love :)

We are focusing this month on marriage, love, and relationships. In case you missed it, here’s a little bit of a side note for this month’s theme…

This month’s theme is definitely meant to focus on your partner or spouse and your relationship with them. I understand there are some single mothers in the group and mean no disrespect or to be exclusive. I encourage you strong, single mamas to spend this month focusing on your loving relationships with other people in your life, like your children.

The point is, relationships matter and they deserve time set aside to focus on them, and so often life gets busy and we forget.  Be encouraged, and make this month what you want it to be for where you’re at in your life.

Having said that, I am really looking forward to the discussions we’re going to have this month! I love talking about marriage and I’m hoping that we all leave this month feeling closer to our significant others and a lot more in sync. When our key relationships do better, we do better. And we feel a lot better about things in general too!

My hope for you this month is that you focus on the people you love in your life, and if you’re married or have a significant other you’re doing life with, that you get a lot closer to them and feel better about your relationship in general.

Cheers to love and lots of growth this month!

Rooting for you,

xo Allie

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Tips For Making This Month Count
 

  • Communicate. No matter where your marriage is at, no matter if you have a spouse who’s totally on board for bringing positive change to your relationship or who doesn’t want to work on things at all, the best thing you can do is talk. Express how you feel with love and grace and patience, stay calm, and communicate.
  • Remember: you can only change yourself. Trying to change another person is a sure-fire way to fail and end up really frustrated. Focus on yourself and what YOU have to work on. It only takes one person in a marriage to bring change.
  • Small changes count big time. If all you can do is hold hands more, or have an at-home date night once a month, or open communication a bit, that’s okay! Progress is progress, no matter how insignificant it might feel. Don’t be discouraged.
  • Don’t compare your marriage to others. Comparison is truly the thief of joy, so don’t look at where other couples in the group are at and feel less than or panicked or hopeless. We all have our stories and we all have dark, scary, hard parts of those stories. Just because we aren’t currently there and you are, doesn't mean you’re failing. Choose to see the hope in people’s stories as we share and encourage one another this month!
  • When in doubt, read and pray. In my opinion, these are the two most powerful actions a woman can take when it comes to a lot of things, but especially her marriage. We can’t control our spouse or significant other; we can only control ourselves. There are literally millions of books about marriage out there that can change your perspective and your life. And when it comes to changing your heart, that’s where prayer comes in. “Shut up and pray” was my motto during one of the hardest times in my marriage. I didn’t always follow that motto (ha!) but it did help me a lot. Prayer is powerful. Books can be life-changing. Hateful words spewed in the heat of a moment produce only hurt, pain, and ruin.

This Month, Allie Is...


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Playing on Repeat:

  • Bear’s Den is my current favorite. Their songs are folksy and soothing and mostly romantic. I love having them on in the house while I get my cleaning done, sip coffee, or work on school with the kids.

** Side note: one of their songs has a yucky word in it (“Bad Blood”) so be sure to skip that one if your littles are around or that sort of thing bothers you ;)

  • Also check out the Spotify playlist I created for you here:

Listening to:

  • The Fierce Marriage podcast. Ryan and Selena are hilarious, real, and faithful leaders and I love their show!

Reading:

  • I just started The Wellness Project by Phoebe Lapine and it is changing my perspective so much when it comes to health and wellness! If you’re wanting to stay on the bandwagon from January’s theme, read this book!